Supergoals & The fight for our identity

Posted by on Wednesday, September 7th, 2011

Inspired by the upcoming election and the global turmoil that exists not only economically but also politically, culturally, etc.. I sat down the other day, and thought about what it is, that makes us disagree about so many things. I will not go into the political programs, and describe which part or party, I think is right in everything from global conflicts to our own little country here in Denmark.

I would rather give a suggestion to, why there are so many endless discussions that rarely brings any constructive things on the table. Why are these conflicts continuing to arise, why does small countries like Denmark, that I live in, not move particularly fast and constructively in any direction regardless of party, colour, cultural, religious or national background?

Now it is obviously a subjective assessment, but consider it more as an explanation of why, we as humans are so adept at creating challenges for ourselves create controversy and ultimately stop a particular development.

The explanation is not simple, because there can be many reasons for this, but a few behaviours stand out in everything from the public debate to our work, home and personal environment.

Behaviour Pattern No. 1: The fight for our identity

What a person does not have, can achieve or have achieved – is often made wrong by the same person, in order to provide security and recognition for his own identity and whereabouts. Unfortunately, this can be very strongly expressed, and people will go very far to practice this, as it is ultimately a question of sustainability of their own identity. This is not rare that people will do anything for such as killing each other. One’s identity and the maintaining of this, is one of the most powerful mechanisms in the human mind.

Behaviour Pattern No. 2: Super Goals

Dare we address the larger issues? Or are we just keeping it to the small issues. Too often, I see people discussing everything from how the spoons should be on the table, the time at the computer to whether there should be Coca Cola in the cafeteria or not or whether there should be saved or used in the governments “household” budgets. Because as long as we discuss minor issues and corresponding solutions, we will either agree or disagree, resulting in a time of “silence” where we calms down and finds a new little problem to discuss. Another example is when people get together on a common enemy or problem, which they will start to fight and sometimes conquer, and then go to their separate ways again and begin to fight each all over again.

If we do not link these up to bigger goals, what I like to call a “Super Goal” or a definite vision, these disagreements do not accommodate the differences that we already have as humans, and therefore we will discuss in infinity. A “Super Goal” is a goal or vision on something that we continually work towards, and that is not possible to solve within a short time horizon. Such as the optimum relationship, a golden future for ourselves, our children, the environment, global diseases, poverty etc.

Think about it: What’s new and revolutionary has come out of all our disagreements in the world, our own little countries, our workplace or personal relationships. Has it really brought something for us and our future, or has it only been redefined in a new context. Who and what have these disagreements ultimately helped?

Both practices create a platform for debate, which is characterized by guilt and blame, which does not solve any problems. Playing “The blame game” is often practiced in everything from politics to one’s personal life. Just to blame others for something, does not solve fundamental problem(s), – it only creates a terrible cyclus of blame that get more and more damaging. Looking at this from another view, our fundamental physical laws, we will learn that resistance creates renewed resistance.

The solution lies in leadership, for ourselves and others. To risen our horizons and see things not only from the tip of our nose but also from others. Whether it’s in one’s immediate perimeter or around the world as a whole. By deciding to go after so-called “Super Goals”, setting up a vision for the future of our countries, our surroundings, work and personal lifes gives space and room for development, instead of simply blaming, or discussing small issues.

Major changes require a good sense of major solutions

Keep Swinging

Kim Kampp

 

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